Problems do come in a marriage life but they are not to stay forever so just relax and start working to make it a happy marriage life again. Just keep one thing in mind that if it could go worse then it could be made better and no one’s perfect. No matter who picked a fight, start first and resolve the issue. All you need is to see if you are doing wrong and then take one step back if you want to keep your marriage and spend your life with your spouse.
Work on Your Communication Methods:
Marrying to someone means that you’re going to spend rest of your life with that person and what if you don’t talk too often with each other? It doesn’t mean that you don’t talk to your spouse but analyze the communication phase like if you talk too less or she feels nervous while asking you something? Or maybe one of you goes hyper while discussing normal things? These are the questions that identify if you are involving your marriage life into domestic violence that may cause an end to it. Just listen to each other and try to stay respectful while you have a talk about anything. Always keep the conversation doors open between you and your spouse so you could now what’s going into your life and stay away from a sudden ‘divorce notice’ one morning.
In a marriage life, respect is the most important factor and once we lose it, our marriage counts on luck to survive. Just don’t let this thing go out of your life and show some respect for each other when you are with each other and talk respectfully about your partner when you are with someone else. Fights to happen in a marriage life but try to find an easy way to discuss things and don’t try to win over each other. Just find who’s on the wrong side and if they other person is not giving up, just leave the topic in a good manner that he/she doesn’t feel it. Every person has some flaws so does your spouse, but it doesn’t mean that you are perfect and have a right to abhor others. Don’t forget the positive things in your partner like when they stayed with you in your tough time or a habit of them that you likes (even if you don’t tell them about it) or anything you know better and start loving them instead of marking HOW-DISGUSTING points about them.
Don’t Ever Think That Marrying Your Spouse Was a Mistake:
Another foolish people do with their happy marriage life is that they take little things too seriously and then find those idealistic qualities in other that they used to see in their life partners. So if you are thinking that way, stop it and don’t ever think that marrying to her/him was just a mistake and nothing else. Don’t look at your secretary or an old school friend who showed up after a couple of years (and not engaged with someone). They are just to stay for few days or months maybe but leaving your partner or someone else just because they don’t have those attractive qualities anymore is just a mistake because you’d do the same to that lady/guy as you did to your ex. After spending years with each other, you just knew who they really are and that’s the beauty of a married life that people ignore bad things about their partner and see good things in them as they did on first meeting.
Never Fight in Front of Your Children:
If you want to keep your married life happy then do one thing first to stop fighting in front of your kids. Kids are sensitive and like a clean glass that may wreck if you shout or fight in front of them (with each other). Don’t ruin your child’s childhood just for a stupid thing one of you did last night (month or year). Keep your voices down when kids are near your room and don’t let them guess that you fought. Take them as your strength a reason to live peacefully and not as an obligation that your spouse compels to think that you don’t want them in your life when you do.
Little Words of Kindness Can Help You in Your Marriage Life:
In every relationship, it is necessary to be gentle and show that you care. The same rule applies in a martial life to make it happy and peaceful and not a burden on your shoulders. Thank your spouse on every possible situation where you should and say sorry when you realize that you hurt her feelings or didn’t keep your promise for taking her out somewhere. Call her with sweet names and see how she’d response with a mild smile on her cheeks. Get help with any courteous word whenever you feel they are needed in a disturbing moment.
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